Thursday, January 2, 2014

2:48 a.m.

2:48am is when our day began. Levi awoke bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and all efforts to negotiate him back to sleep were futile. It's not often you have to wait 3.5 hours for a 6:30am breakfast to start :)

We met the representative who was scheduled to accompany us to the orphanage at 9:15am and left for the orphanage after a short meeting with her. Upon our arrival we met with a few of the ladies who work at the orphanage and asked some specific questions about Reshma though the one question we were most interested in they had no answer for.

Reshma and her foster mother came to meet us at the orphanage and honestly, it was very heavy. Reshma was obviously scared and anxious about the prospect of what this day offered and meant for her future. She was very quiet (no words at all really) for the first two hours we were together - this time was split between the orphanage and the home of her foster family. God truly provided a wonderful Christian foster family for her these past two years. As far as we can tell they loved her as their own. They were incredibly hospitable and gracious to us as well.



As the time came for Reshma to say a final goodbye she began weeping. She probably wept for 30 minutes of the 45 minute ride back to the hotel with us. These weren't negative tears...they were obviously tears of the great loss she felt in leaving her foster family (her second loss of a family in three years)...not so much a communication of her not wanting to come with us. Kelley was spectacular at just loving on her as we met and on the way back to our hotel. She just held her and reassured her...and really began the process of winning her heart. Amidst all that happened this morning - walking in a room with one child and walking out with two - God's peace was flanking us on all sides and anchoring us. 



Reshma's difficulty and tears today actually leave me feeling encouraged. Some children who've experienced such huge losses and significant emotional trauma lose the ability to emotionally connect with people (can you tell we've been to many adoption conferences?). Her weeping and great sense of how solemn this day was encourages me that she still knows love and connection. And that will come in time with us...

As we settled into our hotel room and gave her a few gifts she was slowly more at ease. Levi has played a huge role in welcoming her! He has loved on her and God has used him to set her at rest we believe. We can't imagine how much harder this would have been for her without Levi here to bridge the divide, so to speak. Over the next four hours we read some books, asked her some questions and she slowly came alive. We are well aware this is only the beginning of what will be a very long process of establishing trust with her and proving that this change is the last family change she will ever have...but it has been unbelievable to watch her wrestle and play with Levi. It was so theraputic. She is letting us touch her and engage playfully. The change in her in the first four hours of being alone with us is almost unbelievable. She went from completely closed and full of sorrow to bouncing off the walls in freedom and genuine-seeming joy when playing with Levi.


Levi and Reshma both crashed around 4pm local time which means we will probably be facing another messed up night of sleep...but it doesn't really matter at this point. This picture happened naturally...it is almost unbelievable but we did not stage this. 


We are full of thanksgiving to God for His grace for this day. It's unlike any other day we've ever experienced. We are contented to walk this process day by day as it comes. Thank you for your prayers and coming alongside us. Reshma has no idea how many people are interested in her life and want to know her. God is a redeemer and He has been so good to us.

Last thing - many of you might be wondering about her English.  She still hasn't spoken a lot. She is conversational in English but lacks quite a bit of everyday vocabulary. She understands most of what we say if we say it slowly and use basic means to communicate. She'll be fine in a few months, and we are thankful she is as advanced as she is in English. 

Pray for us through this night. As night sets in a solemness has returned. And all throught the night we'll be right beside her...our sweet, spunky, beautiful, daughter of promise!

Lots more details to come tomorrow!

19 comments:

Laura Hedden said...

I am overwhelmed by God's goodness and faithfulness. I love you.-Laura

Anonymous said...

Praise the Lord! This literally brought me to tears. To see His perfect timing and His faithfulness come to pass, just as it always does. All of your pictures are so beautiful and makes me excited to see more of God's work in y'alls lives! I miss you guys and am excited. I am so thankful for how God has answered prayers. I hope to see you guys this spring! Love you guys very much and I definitely will be praying!

Love,

Chelle (Michelle :) )

bestgalphotography said...

Yes God!! This is amazing and the picture of them sleeping is an absolute treasure! Praying for rest and peace and more and more a JOY for you all! We love you!! She is an amazing little girl!

Kindel said...

Happy tears on this side of the world! I'm sorry for Reshma's sense of loss...but that means that she is full of good memories! And that's wonderful! Loving the pictures! Keep 'em coming!!! Love you all!!!

Megan Sanders said...

Whew! I cried ALL the way through this. My heart is so full for your family. What a blessing. There just aren't word to discribe the full beauty of the story God is writing.

the Wanna Be said...

Beautiful! I am praying for your family.

Jared said...

This is beautiful. Praying for you guys!

Heidi De Love said...

time will heal all. You will be amazed at the change. Our son did not speak and in ten months has caught up 85% of vocabulary and he was a child with severe speech delay so all will be fine. Time and love! that last photo is precious!

Peter and Nancy said...

I am just weeping as I read this. What an exercise in trust for her . . . what a brave, courageous, amazing daughter you have. And how beautiful of you to meet her where she is, and give her the freedom to express her feelings. I am praying that she can sense that you're trustworthy and begin to relax. God bless you as you begin to build bonds!
Nancy

Nan said...

Lots of joyful tears flowing,....that picture of your two children embodies the very heart of "family" ... Beautiful! Sending love!

Emily Miller said...

It's all so incredibly beautiful! I love your faith, your heart, your empathy for what Reshma is going through...all of it. I definitely lost all composure at the sight of your two precious ones asleep. God is so good! Thank you for sharing your journey. We're praying for the adjustment and will look forward to meeting her!

Rebecca Moore said...

So excited for you all! It sounds like having Levi there was really a God send. I was a bit worried about him allowing you to interact with her without demanding attention, like a typical three year old, but it does sound like he is "bridging the gap". I'm sure over the next few days Reshma will draw even closer to you. When we brought Martine home we had to spend one night in a hotel in Miami. She had been fine as long as we were in Haiti but when we stepped on US soil she lost it. Cried and cried for hours until she finally fell asleep. Later we learned it was for her loss of one of the other kids at the orphanage. A baby whom she had been given charge of for almost a year and she couldn't stand the thought of leaving. Almost like leaving her own child. When Talie came this little girl was on the same plane so Martine was able to see her again. We will continue to be in prayer for your relationship, process and paperwork, and travel.

Anonymous said...

I'm so happy for you guys. These are sweet pictures. I know she will love you before long Kelley. You are the kindest, and most caring person I know. I can't being to understand how this little girl must feel but I know before long she will have happy memories with your new family:) WOW what an amazing story to share to show others God's love and grace. Mary

Susan Habbick said...

I love reading and seeing pictures of your story! It brought tears to my eyes - such preciousness! I'm reminded of our own story 6 mos. ago. We also brought our boys and they were a huge help welcoming Jessica into our family. God used them hugely for bonding - and looks like Levi is doing the same thing. Fantastic! Also, we gave Jessica the same Indian doll - so cool! I sure hope Jessica and Reshma can be friends when you get back. Reshma reminds me so much of Jessica. Jessica, too, was sad and grieved for 5 days, then started laughing. I'm relieved to know that Reshma does have those feelings, this is a good thing, showing that she hasn't buried her feelings and bonding will be better. What a beautiful girl! I will be praying for strong bonds to be formed immediately! Praying lots! GOD is AMAZING!

Susan Habbick said...

I loved seeing and reading your journey story! It made me tear up with JOY for you all! Your story reminds me of our trip to get Jessica 6 mos. ago. We also brought our boys and they were a huge help welcoming Jessica into our family. God used them tremendously to help Jessica bond and it looks like Levi is doing the same. How beautiful! Also, Jessica cried and grieved for 5 days, but then started smiling. I was relieved to see that Reshma shows feelings, which means she hasn't shut herself off emotionally. This will make bonding easier. And we also gave Jessica the same Indian doll! so cool! I hope Reshma and Jessica can be friends when you get back. I'm praying for you to have strong bonding immediately! GOD is AMAZING! PRAISE HIM! Lifting you up to our Lord , Susan Habbick

Chandler Lattimore said...

This is so beautiful! I loved the picture of Levi and Reshma sleeping. God is such a good and loving father and so very faithful. So thankful you are sharing this amazing story!!

Chandler Lattimore :)

Chandler Lattimore said...

This is so beautiful! I loved the picture of Levi and Reshma sleeping. God is such a good and loving father and so very faithful. So thankful you are sharing this amazing story!!

Chandler Lattimore :)

Susan Habbick said...

praying for you! Not sure if my comments are getting through, so I thought I would try this short response.

Susan Habbick said...

Lifting you up in prayer! (wondering if leaving comments are working?)