Wednesday, November 28, 2012

National Adoption Month and An Update

This month has been set apart by our nation as National Adoption Month. In the words of President Obama:
As a Nation that believes all children deserve the chance to reach their full potential, we have a fundamental responsibility to ensure each of them grows up knowing the love and protection of a permanent family. During National Adoption Month, we give voice to children who are still waiting for that opportunity, celebrate the bond that unites adoptive parents with their sons and daughters, and recommit to providing every child with the care and security that will nurture their development and well-being.
We've been pretty silent about adoption this month. Not because it hasn't been on our minds. It is all the time. We ache for our daughter to be and connecting with us. Us learning her, her learning us and all of us learning that unconditional, selfless love is not bound by blood or culture.

There are many things going on with India and adoptions. Some things we can share here and some we can't, yet. The system that is supposed to make adoption easier and quicker as my Hindustan Times article boasted is in need of some tweaking. And while we have our dossier at our orphanage in India, no new applications will be accepted for a few months while some easier and quicker snafus are un-snafued.

But we are still in-process and are officially on an adventure in the land of waiting. With almost four years in this journey to our little girl of promise, we are learning to be thankful in the present because we're for sure one day closer. Also, we're grateful that our paperwork is on the other side of the ocean matched with our orphanage. This allows us to continue forward in the process. For many families and even more children, adoption is on hold again. Thankfully in February a meeting will be held in India with many international adoption agencies present to discuss the system and some proposed changes. If changes mean speed and more streamlined procedures, let the meetings begin. 

In our waiting we have filled out some paperwork for our agency and researched to find a few Indians studying at a local university willing to teach us some of the culture and language of our daughter's home state. We have found those we've connected with to be SO gracious and hospitable. Maybe it's because I'm in love with all things Indian or maybe it's just that I've seen a level of hospitality in our new Indian friends and other foreigners that warms my heart and makes me feel truly welcomed. I am taking notes for when you visit someone's home, follow-up thank you's and genuine offers to help learn culture and language. Wow...they are all so helpful and kind.

Hello = Namaskara
The language we are just stepping into is as you would expect...foreign. The beautiful, thick Indian accents and cups of coffee with a Karnataka native make us realize again that all this paperwork, money gathering and waiting might be the easy part. We are entering into a God-sized calling meshing two cultures under one roof. Then, we'll finally have our daughter and the aching will shift from aching for her to aching with her for the family and culture she has lost. We're trying to prepare for that coming ache- how to immerse her in American culture while offering her comforts of her first home, how to communicate, and recognizing and handling trauma in name a few. 

One thing, though, I think I can finally check off the preparations list as of today: hot, Indian chai. I've tried to replicate it since getting back from Kolkata and thanks to a helpful lady at a local Indian grocery, I think I got it. I've been jittery all day from drinking too much of the amazing stuff. 

Add water, milk, sugar and fresh ginger in just the right way and you have a heavenly concoction!

Also, word on the street is that the lady we met and worked with in India, Shampa, is visiting the states and will be speaking close by in the coming days. Plans are underway. And pictures will follow...

1 comment:

bestgalphotography said...

Where will Shampa be? Would love to see her! Oh, and I'm gonna need a Chai date my precious friend. :) I know it is rude in our culture to invite yourself over but I need, NEED a redemptive chai experience. :) Love!